Guest post by Professor M.S. Rao“Virtue has a veil, vice a mask.” — Victor Hugo
In this cut-throat competitive world, people wear different masks either to ensure their survival or to achieve success. Is it essential to wear them? What are the implications and complications involved in wearing multiple masks? Let us look at them.
Wearing a mask is to show something which you are not in reality. It is to fake to overcome your apprehensions or superstitions or weaknesses or anything which you want to hide them from others. Currently people wear multiple masks. A few people are intelligent enough to identify such individuals behind their masks.
Some people wear multiple masks since they strive for validation and appreciation. You can fool some people for some time but you cannot fool all people all the time. Abraham Lincoln rightly remarked, “You may fool all the people some of the time, you can even fool some of the people all of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all the time.” When you look at social media people wear different masks, and it becomes nearly impossible to identify their real personalities.
Authors and storywriters often wear multiple masks at the time of writing to enable them to get into the shoes of their characters to justify their content and get best out of it. It is like wearing multiples masks in an imaginary world.
Three Masks Most People Wear
People wear multiple masks in their personal, professional and social lives. In the personal life, they wear a mask to overcome their inner fears and phobias. In the professional life, they wear a different mask to earn appreciation from their superiors and others. In the social life, they show a different picture totally. It is like wearing multiple hats with multiple masks personally, professionally and socially.
Feel Good and Look Good
People wear multiple masks due to various reasons. One of the reasons is the fear of rejection. They must understand that everyone has flaws. Most people understand this aspect, and hence, they accept and respect the flaws in others. It is a positive sign in the current world.
Some people believe that wearing multiple masks is not a bad idea as long as it serves their interests and doesn’t hurt or harm others. Some people go to the extent of justifying wearing multiple masks to achieve success by hook or crook.
People wear appealing clothes to please others. They demonstrate habits and practices to please others. They dress elegantly for events and functions to show to the people although they are not so in reality. It is to create ‘feel good and look good’ for them and others. When it is allowed, wearing multiple masks is also allowed to create feel good and look good around them.
There are no Ideal People in the World
Some people strive for perfection. If they cannot achieve it, they wear a mask. The reality is that there is nothing like perfection in this world. What we can do is to emphasize excellence. Secondly, there are no ideal people in the world as everyone has a hidden story behind them. Hence, it is ideal not to become idealistic but to strive for excellence irrespective of the area you belong to add value to you and the people around you.
It is rightly remarked that another person’s pasture always looks greener. It is a well admitted fact that nobody is perfect in the world. We are living in an imperfect world where people wear multiple masks from cradle to grave. Our imperfections make us unique and different from others.
You are a Gift to the World!
Be what you are. Don’t compare with others because you are a unique person, and a gift to this world. You can take inspiration from other eminent leaders including Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela but you must not compare with them. The worst thing is to compare with others and wear masks accordingly. Additionally, don’t sacrifice your personal happiness to please others because it is your life.
Unmask to Excel as an Authentic Leader
When you want to unlock your hidden potential, you must shed your mask. When you want to grow as a respectable leader, you must shed your mask. When you want to achieve success in the long-run, you must shed your mask. When you want to live beyond your lifetime, you must shed your mask.
When you wear mask, you don’t feel comfortable internally as your conscious repeatedly reminds your artificial face resulting in intrapersonal conflict. When you want to be loved for what you are, you must unmask yourself.
We were born natural, but we wear many masks during our lifetime. We wear multiple masks from cradle to grave due to innumerable reasons. But it is not advisable because everybody has their own flaws. Everybody has their strengths and weaknesses. Hence, there is no meaning in hiding them to please others. Remember, nobody is entirely good, and nobody is entirely bad. Every good leader has some flaws and every bad leader has some great things. To summarize, avoid wearing multiple masks. Instead, be authentic to keep yourself happy and excited. Have guts to face the realities in your life. Be what you are. Be natural. Be original. Be authentic to lead from your heart to stand out as a tall leader.
Note: This article has been adapted from “See the Light in You: Acquire Spiritual Powers to Achieve Mindfulness, Wellness, Happiness and Success.” His Holiness Dalai Lama wrote foreword for this book.
Professor M.S. Rao, Ph.D. International Leadership Guru
Professor M.S. Rao, Ph.D. is the Father of “Soft Leadership” and Founder of MSR Leadership Consultants, India. He is an International Leadership Guru with 37 years of experience and the author of 37 books including the award-winning ‘21 Success Sutras for CEOs’ URL: http://www.amazon.com/21-Success-Sutras-Ceos-Rao/dp/162865290X. He is a C-Suite advisor and a sought-after keynote speaker globally. He is passionate about serving and making a difference in the lives of others. He shares his leadership wisdom freely with the world on his four blogs. His vision is to build one million students as global leaders by 2030 URL: http://professormsraovision2030.blogspot.in/2014/12/professor-m-s-raos-vision-2030-one_31.html. He is a dynamic, energetic and inspirational leadership speaker. He can be reached at: [email protected].